Bilbo Baggins in J. R. R. Tolkien’s The Fellowship of the Rings said “I feel thin, sort of stretched, like butter scraped over too much bread.” There are times when I certainly can identify with that sentiment. It is all too easy to become overextended in terms of time and commitments. Between my job, working on my house, church committees, and other demands upon my time it often feels like I am squeezing 10 days into a 7 day week. But, all is not lost!
Manage your expectations and those of others by learning how to say “no”. If your plate is already full, it’s OK to say no to new requests or to delegate if appropriate. Reasonable people will understand when you explain why you decline such a request.
The thing is, some people have a hard time saying “no” and confuse honesty with politeness. The thing to remember is that if you say “yes” when you really don’t want to, you are not doing yourself anybody else any favors. It is not considerate to agree and then back out or proceed with resentment, especially when you knew you really didn’t want to do something in the first place.
Saying “no” is sometimes the nicest thing you can do, for others and for yourself.