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I Choose What To Consume

I don’t know about you but I get really tired, really fast listening to the news lately.  I don’t care which side of the political spectrum with which you align yourself, the bitterness and rancor that permeates the radio and television these days is unlike anything I’ve experience in my 57 years on this planet.  So I have most stopped letting the broadcast media rent space in my head and heart for free.

I no longer watch the news on TV in the morning.  I mean really, who likes to start their day pissed off?  Not me!  In the evening I watch a local affiliate for local stuff.  To get national news, I read the online versions of state newspapers  as well as those of the New York Times and the Washington Post.  The advantage of this is simply that I choose what I consume.  When I’m in my truck I either listen to a classical music station or my collection of Success Magazine audio interviews.  I certainly avoid talk radio, even on NPR, because without fail they are all biased in some manner.

What it all comes down to at the end of the day, is that I have decided that I will control what goes into my head, much like I choose to control what I eat and drink.  In both cases, I avoid consuming toxic materials.



Change Ain’t Easy

We’ve all heard it: “If you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always gotten.” Deciding to change your habits in favor of something that is beneficial-or at least less damaging-is about as easy as it gets.  It’s actually changing that is tough.

You can read all the self-help books and magazines you want, but if you don’t act then all that reading didn’t matter.

You can make all the New Year’s resolutions and other self-promises you want, but if you don’t act then they were in vain.

You can set as many goals and targets as you can imagine, but if you don’t act then the thought was wasted.

The only way to change is to actually get out there, wherever your “there” is, and do it.  Nike’s well known ad campaign from years ago was simple but on point: “Just Do It.”  That’s a bit blunt.  I prefer what Yoda told Luke Skywalker in The Empire Strikes Back:  Do or do not.  There is no try.”  And if you need help to “do”, by all means ask for it.  We are all in this together.

Ditch The New Year’s Resolutions

It’s that time of the year when we feel inspired for a new start with the new year.  Did you make any resolutions?  Not me.  Why not?  Well, resolutions have within them an implied “if”.  “I’ll do this new thing this year, IF my will power holds out.”  Inevitably, without help, the New Year’s Eve inspiration fades and then you’re back at square one.

I understand it’s a great and uplifting feeling, to get resolved. Resolutions also imply insight and desire, not finality or results, but the whole reason you make resolutions is to get results. Here’s the thing: to be successful, you have to promise yourself to do something and then actually do it.  This seems simple, but promises are a whole different game.  Promises are different from resolutions because:

1) They are a clear commitment.

2) They are very specific, exactly what you will do or not do. (“I’ll go to the gym more” becomes “I’ll jog three times a week for 30 minutes.”)

3) They are often public, especially if you post them on social media or with accountability partners.

4) There are consequences if you don’t keep them.

So, I encourage you to ditch the resolutions and instead make promises to yourself, and keep them.  It’s better in the long run to do than to resolve to do.

Year End Thoughts

The end of 2016 is fast approaching, just a week and a day away.  As with much in life, I find that there are both good things and bad things about this past year.  To the greatest extend that we can, I believe that we should leave as much of the bad stuff in 2016 and move on in 2017.

I don’t see the advantage to carrying grudges or negativity around like the Red Badge of Courage.  If there is a problem that needs to be addressed, then do so.  Create a plan for a solution, in writing, and keep it handy.  And follow it!

Conversely, if there is something worth celebrating then by all means do so!  There is nothing at all wrong with enjoying a good thing/person/event for as long as possible.  Be good to yourself!

I realize that I’m fortunate in that my pluses far outnumber my minuses.  My last observation here is that if you find yourself on the opposite side of this equation, don’t be afraid to seek and accept help.  That’s what friends and family do.



It’s That Time Of The Year

So, here it is the day before Thanksgiving.  Christmas is just around the corner.  These are the holidays that put a simplified lifestyle to the test.  But I am not going to stress out about it.  (If you missed it, that’s tip numero uno.)

Since I’m a vegan, turkey and dairy are pretty much off the table for Thanksgiving-pun most definitely intended! That said, if someone offers me a turkey sandwich, I’ll politely pass and ask if I can have some more of those wonderful yams or some stuffing.  No soapbox standing allowed.  And if a bit of gravy is already on something, it won’t be the end of the world.

As to Christmas, my friends and family know that I am not big on new possessions.  I do gladly accept consumables such as food or Nook gift cards.  I try to reciprocate in kind when appropriate.  But if someone gives me any gift I will be grateful that I was in their thoughts and accept it with thanks, no matter what.

For both holidays, I think the thing is to be gracious in accepting what is offered and given, and to be gracious in offering and giving.